"Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with everything they have"Quote sound familiar? For most people, this quote is a fact that sums up their heartaches and leaves them feeling helpless and defeated. A few years ago, I came across a book called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Used correctly, it has the potential to change this quote from fact into fiction.
Chapman wrote the book on his theory that everyone expresses and recognizes love differently. For example, you can think that love is someone tidying the house for you or grabbing you a cup of coffee (these are acts of service). However, I could experience love as someone telling me how much they love me and want to spend the rest of their life with me (these are words of affirmation). Often, how we feel love will be how we lavish love on someone else. So, I will be telling you how much I want to be with you and you will be buying me coffee and taking out the trash but we will both feel unloved. Why? Because we do not speak the same love language!
In order to ensure your partner feels love, you must discover their particular love language and then practice it. When they feel loved, they will (in theory) also want to express love to you in your own love language, so you can feel love too! You can find out your love language from taking the quiz by clicking here.
If, however, you have been making the effort to show your partner love and they do not return it, you may have to step back and re-evaluate the relationship. After all, if someone is not willing to make the effort to return your love, do they really want to be with you?
Have a love-filled day!